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  hello!

  by gamergirl in

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  glad to be a new member and find others with similarities of background.

  some background info on me: my dad became jw when i was young, so i spent maybe a third of my life in the religion.

  although i respect everyone's beliefs, i personally knew many genuinely selfless people in my congregation, but the way i was raised, now that i am an adult i am realizing was very sheltered and unrealistic.

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  does farmville count as a game? LOL welcome to JWN
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  Would you rather buy an exspensive Jacket or a 50 inch T.V?

  by new hope and happiness in

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  i chose the jacket....

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  The TV is arguably the better use of money. A jacket that cost as much as a 50" TV would more than likely be some fancy designer label that wouldn't serve the purpose any better than a $50 jacket from WalMArt. The only reason to spend several hundred dollars on a jacket would be if it were a really high tech specialized jacket for extreme cold weather and you were a researcher posted in Antarctica for the winter.
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  Do you feel guilty?

  by Justmenthedogs in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so while i was out hiking with the dogs today i got to thinking about this forum and was wondering how many of you still feel guilty from time to time for leaving?

  i do, i miss my family at times but then i think about the life that i have created and i have a good one, i have good friends and i am happy, happier then i ever was as a jw.

  i was just wondering if others feel the same way sometimes..

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  I don't have anyone left in that I feel responsible for, so my guilt is limited to feeling bad about ever exposing my children to the borg in the first place.
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  I need help in dealing with a toxic family member!!!!

  by hoser in

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  2. friends

  i have a close family member who is a pro in using shame to try to make me feel bad.

  they are coming to stay at my place soon and the issue of me and mrs hoser not attending/ doing field service will come up no doubt.. i need some advice on how to deal with this because whenever i deal with these relatives they make me feel worthless.

  it is probably part because they are jw's and jw's motivate by fear and guilt.. .

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  The best solution is to cut them off. Do not engage them in any way. There is nothing for you to gain by continuing a relationship with these people.
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  Announcement made about me

  by KariOtt in

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  2. friends

  hubby informed me that an announcement was made to his congreation not to approach us when we are out together.

  this was done at his request.

  another way he can control me i guess.

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  If he has a bible study with an elder, he is in trouble. Elders do not study with active dubs unless there is a problem. Being allowed to give student talks on the school doesn't mean that he is not on the naughty list.
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  How Cold is it Where You Are?

  by PYRAMIDSCHEME in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  with the polar vortex swirling further and further south and breaking records how cold is it where you are?.

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  here in gettysburg pa last night night we hit a low of -4 degrees but we were blessed with some wind that dropped the wind chill down to -22..

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  We've got snow and yesterday's high was 2 F. Today it hit 12 F! We are in SOuthern Illinois
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  We shall dress with modesty (1Tim2:9), why dress like rich lawyers or wealthy financiers?

  by Mr Fool in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  in my point of view, modest clothing is simple and humble.

  so why are jw-men dressed like they own a big company or are challangers to the president post?

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  I have a professional job, I often work with business owners, attorneys and CPAs. I very rarely encounter a man in a suit or even wearing a tie. Women are rarely dressed in suits either. The most common attire for women seems to be a sweater and slacks, or a golf shirt and jeans. Men usually wear golf shirts and dockers or jeans. There are lots of places where the entire workforce is wearing tshirts and jeans. The borg is so outdated it isn't even funny.
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  marriage without affection/sex/touching

  by zeb in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  yes thats my situation.

  some where along the path of life the wt guilt trip was dumped on our marriage and we havent had sex for years.. anyone else?

  the hearts and flowers and gifts and doing the cleaning, the house work and paying the daily accounts never being drunk on drugs playing the horses or screwing others yep its all there but nothing coming back due to the wt guilt trip.. they made so much of 'oral sex' and 'pornea' incorrectly quoted at that and ventured thereby into areas they were patently very ill equipped to comment on.

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  Inability to perform is different than lack of emotional intimacy or non-intercourse physical affection. I think that a healthy relationship can withstand the inability of one partner to perform certain sexual acts, whether due to medical issues, mental health issues, or simple personal distaste for certain acts. A marriage cannot withstand one (or both) partners checking out emotionally. At that point, you are just roommates and the relationship begins dying. I don't know if it's possible to force or even entice the checked out partner to re-engage.
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  I just binned all my meeting clothes.

  by quellycatface in

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  a bit rash but very necessary.i never really liked them anyway..

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  I never had clothing just for meetings. I just work my normal work clothes. I still have most of them and wear them regularly. I actually prefer skirts to dress pants. My kids don't own a single piece of dress up clothing anymore though. I ditched most of their suits ppretty quickly, and they've outgrown the rest. Just Ron still has a couple of suits, but they only get worn to funerals and the rare fancy dinner.
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  Fat Girls Guide to Life book

  by love2Bworldly in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  anyone read the "fat girl's guide to life"?

  i am reading it right now and finding it pretty interesting.

  it makes me think outside the box a little bit about how much money is spent on products for people to lose weight, and how much money saturates the market and influences so much of the media.. the author's attitude is one i try to have-- exercise, be balanced in eating habits, drink water, take nutrition supplements, and don't obsess over dieting & what the scale says or about other people's judgements toward my weight.. right now, i already know why i am overweight-- i am eating to deal with my bipolar issues.

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  perhaps it's better to eat and be happy with a shorter life than to continually deny oneself the food one wants to eat and live a long life of longing and hunger...